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My boyfriend and I started dating mid last year One day, I was playing games on his ipad when an email notification appeared, casually I clicked Inbox. I really wasn?t thinking when I started reading his email untl I got a rude shock. I was still emailing his ex who is in yankee. I know her cos we went to the school together. Like the email is nothing serious but he gave me the impression that they were no longer in touch. I remember recently when she came up in our conversation and I asked him when last he heard from her and he said last year sometime last year
Me, I don?t know how to keep things so I confronted him immediately. At first he was very mad that I shouldn?t be reading his email blab la bla?. Then he started saying he didn?t want to hurt me but they still keep in touch as casual friends. Efe, our relationship is no longer fun?What do you think?
Riri
Hello Riri,
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Relationships are basically about completely trusting and loving the person you are with.
Less than 100% love is like, less than 100% trust is suspicion.
Both of you violated one of the terms of a healthy happy relationship -Trust.? He lied, and you snooped.? And this has changed things for a very long time to come. He can?t say, ?I have never lied to you baby? and you can?t say ?Trust me baby?
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Efe, please advice me on how to handle my drama queen of a girlfriend. She?s very argumentative and aggressive. I am also a an aggressive person but I have mastered the art of calming myself down cos I tend to result to violence when I am upset.I sometimes tell her that if our roles were reversed, she the guy and my the babe in our relationship, I am sure she would be physically abusing me. And to make matters worse, when I try to calm her down or let her know that we aren?t exactly communicating during those heated moments, she starts saying condescending things like ?be a man and deal with your issues? or you are just looking for an escape route?.
It is just tough to be work things out in our relationship with this kind of behaviour. Bro, do you have any advice?
J
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Hello J,
I have been in such a relationship, to keep this sane during an argument, you try to say things in a way that will make your girlfriend calm down and have a dialogue> By communicating your feelings in very simple and honest terms, you expect her to not only hear you but also respond and reciprocate accordingly.
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By the time my relationship was ending, I learnt that my confusion on why my girlfriend at the time couldn?t just get it wasn?t necessary. I had come to learn that people like that do actually understand everything that was communicated to them but they don?t really care for the other person?s feeling. And a clear indication of this fact is that they continue to carry on their behaviour. Think about this, who wouldn?t really love to resolve their relationship problems in a quiet and matured way? Only that person who doesn?t care about the person they are in a relationship with.
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